AMARILLO, Texas(KAMR/KCIT) —With graduation coming up, parents will notice that their teens are starting to become self-sustaining adults. It’s advised that parents get out of the way and allow them to be more independent.
· Ways to clear the path:
o Don’t pick up the slack.
§ By taking care of their every need keeps kids dependent/powerless.
§ Most teen are fully capable and communicating this to them is key.
§ When “backing off” do so in stages and make clear you will still be watching.
o Learn to let go.
§ Transition from telling/providing to listening/guiding.
§ Teens will shift to understanding they are now the ones responsible for how things turn out.
o Parents new role.
§ Don’t back off completely; will still need to teach how to reason/ counting the cost/ reaching out to others/ keeping commitments/ living honestly and respectfully.
§ Freedom is a moving target and kids need ongoing interaction/ requirements to report in/ have clear boundaries.
Help Provide opportunities for growth in all the areas discussed. Have those times when more of a coach/listener vs being the one in total charge.